Jeremy Statton

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Meeting Sean

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Today we met our son. This is Sean Xinmin Statton.

The moment we first met him.

The moment we first met him.

We arrived to the civil affairs office before him. The office was small and we could easily hear every time the elevator doors opened and sometime walked down the hallway. While we finished paperwork, we listened for foot steps to approach the door. We had 4 false alarms before the foot steps belonged to our new son.

Noah and Sean seem to speak some common language that is transmitted without words. Some of their connection comes from the video games they play on the iPad as seen below in the pictures. But there is something more than just video games. It amazes me to watch them interact even in the first few hours.

Today, so far, has been easier than the days we met our other adopted children. Jude cried a lot. And he didn’t want anything to do with us right away. Eva was so traumatized by what was happening to her, she was barely there. Sean seems both happy and eager to be with us.

He has an infectious smile. He is quiet and polite. He likes to read. He doesn’t like to eat fish, and will pretty much eat anything else. He loves basketball.

Sean is a very sweet boy. I can see why he has touched the hearts of so many in the adoption community. I have received many emails from people I have never met telling us how excited they are for us.

He is touching our hearts as well.

It is difficult to describe what you feel when sitting in a room and waiting to meet someone you will make your son. A stranger will be invited into your home, not simply to rest and eat and enjoy what you have, but to be given everything you have. To become and extension of who you are. To take on your name. To be your son.

When I tell people what we are doing they often respond by saying, “I don’t know how you do it.”

I have a confession to make. I don’t either. I do not know how to do this.  I don’t know how to get to know an almost 14 year old boy who speaks very limited English. I don’t know how to ask him if he would like another piece of pizza any more than to find out who he is. I don’t know what to say or what to do.

I confessed this to my wife. And she responded by saying, “Keep showing up.”

We showed up today. We will show up again tomorrow. And the next day after that.

Here are a few more pictures from today.

Meeting our guide next to the Christmas tree in the hotel.

Meeting our guide this morning next to the Christmas tree in the hotel.

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Xin Min signing his name saying he agrees to be adopted. Even if it means being adopted by us.

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Brother bonding over the common language of the iPad.

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Our new family with the orphanage representative and Xin Min’s caretaker.

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The caretaker, Xin Min, the orphanage representative, and the civil affairs officer.

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Back at the hotel. More bonding.

I know I'm not supposed to use this word to describe my 12 and 13 year old sons, but this is too cute.

I know I’m not supposed to use this word to describe my 12 and 13 year old sons, but this is too cute.

 

About Jeremy Statton

Jeremy is a writer and an orthopedic surgeon. When not ridding the world of pain, he helps you live a better story. Follow him on Twitter or Facebook or Google +.

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  • Mary Zoet

    Jeremy and Amanda, Words cannot express the joy I feel in reading that you have met your son. Having met Sean in Urumqi in July and knowing that he is now to be apart of your family brings me tears of joy. I thank the Lord for this great thing He has done! God bless you all!

    Mary Zoet

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Thank you, Mary. Without you and Ming and Laura and others at AAI, this would not have happened. We really appreciate everything you did to make what might have been quickest adoption ever.

  • Amy Young

    Jeremy … thanks for sharing this journey. And I just smiled seeing the Broncos jersey. Mercies upon mercies. :)

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      I don’t know why he picked up the Broncos as his team. I think it started with Tim Tebow. But he certainly hasn’t been disappointed with Manning.

  • DDF

    Jeremy … I love what I see in your family … leading out to live a better story at the intersection of passion & humility. Prayers for all of you this Christmas season!

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Thanks. Christmas will be different this year, but it will be good.

  • vickchick57

    Made me tear up. Congratulations on your new son! God bless you all!

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Thank you.

  • Sarah Simmons

    Such an encouragement to me. I will reread this often! Praying for the transition.

    When I tell people what we are doing they often respond by saying, “I don’t know how you do it.”

    I have a confession to make. I don’t either. I do not know how to do
    this. I don’t know how to get to know an almost 14 year old boy who
    speaks very limited English. I don’t know how to ask him if he would
    like another piece of pizza any more than to find out who he is. I don’t
    know what to say or what to do.

    I confessed this to my wife. And she responded by saying, “Keep showing up.”

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Thanks, Sarah. You are an example to us of keep showing up.

  • Brooke Wilson

    We adopted our 4th son in Urumqi in October, he is 11. It’s a journey getting to know him, sometimes difficult but mostly fun and silly, and I love Callahan to pieces. I too certainly know the love language of electronics between siblings, and we brought our 2 oldest (10&14) to be with Callahan on the journey to our growing family. Congrats to your beautiful family this holiday season , Sean is a beautiful boy! You made it!!

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Thanks, Brooke. It is always encouraging to hear the stories of those who have gone before us.

  • http://sparkvoice.wordpress.com/ DS

    Jeremy thank you for sharing your story. Adoption is full of ups, downs, and deadlines, wondering what/how to do the next thing. Enjoyed reading your wife’s response of “show-up”. Congrats and well wishes while travelling!

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Thanks, DS.

  • http://lanzadoptionadventure.blogspot.com/ Randi

    Awesome, awesome, awesome! We are returning in the spring for an eleven year old boy, so I’m watching you for clues on how to do this. I think your wife may really be on to something that we need to just show up every day. Congrats to your family!

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      That’s wonderful news Randi. I am so excited for you and the new addition.

  • Maureen

    Congratulations. So wonderful to see you with your new son. Good luck on the rest of the trip.

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Thank you.

  • Keith Jennings

    I’m so happy for you! Look forward to catching up!

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Same here, Keith. Your family is a huge encouragement to us.

  • http://www.eileenknowles.com Eileen

    Happy for your family. What an extra special Christmas! Love what your wife said “Keep showing up.”

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Extra special indeed.

  • Karen

    Congratulations! What a match! A lovely young man for a lovely family! Merry Christmas and may God bless you all always.

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Thanks, Karen. Merry Christmas.

  • Ellen

    I can’t stop looking at these photos. I’ve kept the post open all day.

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      : )

  • http://KatieAxelson.com/ Katie Axelson

    Such good advice.
    Such excitement for you.
    Such joy.

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      You could definitely keep going with the word such. the list would be endless.

      • http://KatieAxelson.com/ Katie Axelson

        Such possibilities. ;)

  • Ross Meyers

    I hope the boys have a great bonding time as they fly home together. Looks like they will have a love of games in common. Our iPad has become our Chinese-English go-to device in recent years, with dictionaries and language-learning apps really helping our family.

    Seeing you adopt Sean at the last minute makes us very happy! A foreign family living near us (here in Southwest China) was in a similar race against time to adopt a boy who was Sean’s age. The adoptive father and mother were just months shy of China’s own minimum parental age requirements. The adoption fell through, though the family has been able to stay close with the boy. So after what we’ve seen, your family’s journey is very encouraging!

    • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

      Good to hear from you Ross. When we started this process our agency was hoping that a family farther along in the process would show up. There just wasn’t anybody else who could. We kept warning our children the entire time that it might not work out. But here we are.

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