The Power of Showing Up
I was invited to the dinner before I told my partners I was leaving the practice.
The event was inconsequential. A group of orthopedic surgeons from Japan were traveling across the United States spending 3 days in 10 different cities. On this given night, it was our turn to entertain.
One week before, I had given my partners the news. I was leaving to work at a different hospital.
I had no doubts about the decision itself. It was clear to me that this is what I needed to do. But telling the people that are most affected is never easy.
When the time came to give the bad news, the response was expected. Disappointment. An effort to convince me otherwise. All followed by well wishes. I was relieved to have it over, ready to move on.
But as the dinner approached, I was filled with apprehension. My soon to be former partners would be there, and I no longer wanted to go.
I did not want to have to deal with the awkwardness.
I was afraid of the potential confrontation.
I wanted to take the easy way out.
I wanted to stay home and hide.
All feelings based on assumptions.
I assumed that they were angry with me. I assumed that their anger would cause them to treat me differently, even unfairly. I assumed that they didn’t like me and did not want the best for me.
Assumptions that would eventually be proved wrong simply by showing up.
Despite my fear, I chose to attend the dinner. I don’t remember what convinced me to go, but I am glad I did.
Instead of awkward, it was fun. Instead of confrontational, it was friendly and delightful. Instead of staying at home by myself, I was able to enjoy the company of good friends, solidifying previously stressed relationships.
The Power of Showing Up
Although it can be an incredibly difficult thing to do, there are many reasons to show up.
- By showing up I gave my friends a chance to do the right thing. I gave the situation a chance to be better than I had anticipated.
- By showing up both sides had a chance to say that we cared more about the other person than the issue at hand. Our relationship was based on more than circumstances.
- By showing up I gave a chance for the truth to discovered instead of my being determined by false assumptions.
- By showing up I was able to deal with my false insecurities so that I could face reality.
And reality was much better than I imagined.
Give Your Dream a Chance
We stay home instead of going to the dinner. We don’t write that email making a request because we are certain that we will be rejected. We don’t apply for that position or that job because we can’t face the potential rejection. We don’t write the book because we are certain nobody will read it.
We kill our dreams before they even have a chance to find life.
In my case, my fears were not substantiated. Sometimes, however, the worst case scenario does happen. Your fears might come true.
But what if something good happens? What if you were wrong? What if your wildest dream comes true? The only way to know is to yourself a chance.
To show up.
What are you hiding from? Have you discovered the power of showing up?
Tell me your story in the comments.