Jeremy Statton

Living Better Stories

You Are Not…

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You are not your job.

You are not the money you make. Or the money you don’t have.

You are not the khaki pants and white shirt they make you wear every day.

You are not the new clothes you put on today.

You are not the house you live in or the car you drive.

You are not your grade point average.

You are not the mistakes you make.

You are not your accomplishments.

You are not what other people say you are.

You are not what you see in the mirror. Whether you like what you see or not.

You are not the feelings that overwhelm you and make you feel depressed.

You are so much more than any of this.

Most of us don’t know who we are. We will say we are the job we do. Or we will say we are the feelings we have. Or we will say we are our current circumstances.

I am an accountant. I am broke. I am rich. I am depressed.

We are none of these things.

When we mistakenly identify ourselves as our circumstances, we let them decide who we are and who we will become. Our stories get lost in. They get lost in our appearances. They get lost in our feelings. They get lost in the things we own.

And then we waste our time and effort, we waste our lives, on a story that is worth nothing in the end.

There are two ways to help yourself identify less with circumstances and to become who you were meant to be.

The first is to understand that you are loved. And you are worth dying for.

And then the second is to become love.

I don’t believe in telling you in a step by step process to living a better story because I don’t believe that there are right or wrong stories.

I do believe that you get to choose your own story for yourself. I believe that your circumstances don’t choose for you.

And I  believe that love makes an incredibly good story, one that will matter in the end.

Who are you?

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About Jeremy Statton

Jeremy is a writer and an orthopedic surgeon. When not ridding the world of pain, he helps you live a better story. Follow him on Twitter or Facebook or Google +.

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8 Replies

  1. Greg Faulls

    This was good and spoke to me at the perfect time. I often can get so caught up in what I do and begin to think that it is who I am. In the end, I am God’s child and I am loved and that is enough.
    Thanks Man!
    Greg Faulls

  2. Nicole Eanes

    I’ve been learning a lot about this recently. About how God sees who we’re becoming even when we get caught up in all the wrong definitions of who we are. Such a good word, friend! Thanks for posting!

  3. I love the concept of becoming. I love both who you are and who you are becoming Nicole.

  4. Michele

    “I do believe that you get to choose your own story for yourself. I believe that your circumstances don’t choose for you.”
    Very cool!!! Most of us let our parents, society, our culture, others opinions of us… write our story. When I gathered the courage to stop listening to all the outer voices and began tuning in to that still, small, voice within… that gentle whisper… my story has become ever so fulfilling.
    Just started following your blog and loving it!

  5. Dig the Fight Club reference. It’s easy to define ourselves by what we have. I think all I can REALLY answer is I am a child of God who has been very blessed–even in the most challenging circumstances, I’m still VERY blessed.

  6. the idea spawned from Fight Club. It was on recently.

  7. Thanks, Michele. I let what others think play into what I choose way too often.

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